I almost didn’t show up last night. He lives in Europe. I live in the states. A chance meeting brought us together in Manhattan during his business trip, but what could possibly come of it?
My thoughts were scattered :
*****He seems honest enough, but what kind of life is he living overseas? With whom?
*****Why waste my time having dinner when I’m not interested in long distance chatting? So what he’s offering? Who needs a pen pal?? (Out of sight, out of mind, right? Pretty much.)
*****Do I really want to be bothered?
*****Do I really feel like wearing a dress and makeup?
And on and on. I was trying to talk myself out of enjoying the company of a handsome man — because — What if?
What if he’s crazy? I’m gonna watch my drink closely. What if he’s a con artist?! What could he possibly want from me? Lol.
I remembered this quote about how when you don’t allow people to give to you, you block blessings – or love or something like that. Actually, I found it:
I remembered my Jamaican friend who married a German man and moved to Switzerland. I think they met when she was an exchange student in Germany. They have two children now.
I remembered telling myself, several times, that I would remain (or try to be) open during this process. Three years of the single life has probably made me even more of a skeptic! And I really have no horror stories because I’ve trusted my intuition all along the way. Yeah me!
Anyway, I had a great date with this very chocolate Idris Elba look alike. Similar British accent too (definitely a first for me).
Conversation was spectacular. We’ve both spent a lot of time as single parents. Lots of laughs. He’s very insightful – and analytical. Handsome, and seemingly the transparent type. Loves music. He’s smart and creative. And – he picked a spot where we ate West Indian cuisine, and listened to reggae tunes playing in the backdrop. Y’all know that’s my fave!
His assessment of me? That he has a lot of gates to get through before he gets to the “golden one.” Come on now, am I really that guarded??? He also said I have a very calming presence and that I take my time assessing the “RISKS” of any given situation – and that my job in finance has helped me cultivate that skill! He’s right. Oh, supposedly I had a raised eyebrow as I listened to him, and I’m really a Caribbean girl at heart (I’ve heard that so many times!). Lol.
Well y’all, this is one for the books… haha! I think “LB” could be cool. He’s here often. I love New York!
Have you ever assessed the risk so closely, you missed (or almost missed) out on the opportunity to have fun? Or are you pretty spontaneous? How is that working for you? What’s your criteria as far as saying Yes to a date? What are your conditions, if any?