In August Trippin 2K13, I wrote about several exciting and crazy things that happened that month – one being my ex having a severe stroke. As a follow-up, I haven’t seen him since then, but he called me the other day to fill me in on all that’s been going on with him on his rehab journey.
You may remember that we were together eleven years. Broken up for two before he had the stroke. I really didn’t miss him that much – number one, because I was enjoying the peace of the relationship being over – the peace of transformation. And two, because I knew he was readily accessible. If I needed him, he would come – typically within a day or two.
Don’t get me wrong. Our split was timely, but having taken the time to reflect, here are a few things I miss about him:
1) Foot rubs: There’s nothing like coming home from work, putting your things down, taking a hot shower, and getting a nice foot rub – especially after wearing heels all day.
2) Foot warming: Okay, this is in line with the first one. LOL. My feet get cold at night! And his legs were always warm, so I could just rub my feet on him! Now I have to wear socks to bed…
3) Venting: I miss going home and rambling on about events of the day, to which his response was always the same “Mind your own and leave everybody else’s alone.” (I really hated the way he spoke in rhymes sometimes. A slogan for every damn thing.) If someone threw shade at work, it must’ve been my fault. After I while, I just wouldn’t say anything. OH, but I digress.
4) Maintenance: My bathroom doorknob is loose; and no one is readily available to fix it. (Well, that’s a lie. My son can fix it.)
5) Sex: This probably should’ve been number one, but I had no complaints in that area with him – except when he woke me up in the middle of the night, or got on my nerves to the point that I didn’t want to look at him, let alone —. But that’s why we’re no longer together.
7) Being naked, which is as simple as saying “I’m scared.”
Life always goes on, but when you no longer have access to someone, it’s much easier to take a step back, reflect, and realize that with human connection, even the ones we walk away from are still a part of us. And sudden, traumatic change makes us realize that we should never take people for granted. Never take the comforts for granted, even if your loved one is equal parts nerve-wrecking.
There are plenty of things I DON’T miss; but I won’t address them at this time.
- Should We Entertain Our Exes? (Lunch with M&M) (myfemalepersuasion.com)