“Have you ever dated anybody other than black men?” I’m learning that’s a pretty normal question in the dating world — from black men, because that’s all I’ve ever dated. When I tell them I haven’t, I get strange looks…. Read More ›
Personal Stories
How to Handle Honest Men | 5 Tips For Women
Remember the three men I met last week? They turned out to be HONEST in their intentions, of all things. I’ve been saying honesty is the best game for a while now. (If only more men took heed.) Here’s the… Read More ›
The Lowest Rung of Men – Cowards and Bitches
PART I My first instinct was to send her a picture of her husband’s penis, but then I discovered that I deleted those text messages as soon as I received them. I had no use. (Just being honest.) Or pictures… Read More ›
This Bitch
“Who the hell is this bitch he’s talking to every afternoon at 12 o’clock? And yes, I assumed it was a bitch because why the hell would he be calling a male friend every day at the same damn time?… Read More ›
I’m Grateful For My Ex, But No
“You can’t see me because *Joan will think you’re gonna take me away from her. She thinks we gonna get back together.” My ex (“M”) called me yesterday. I wrote about how he had a severe stroke back in August,… Read More ›
Hindsight Is Better Than 20/20
“You had everything. And when I had you, I kept you. I said let’s get married. Let’s go to the justice of the peace. And you said no.” Conversation with my ex, Michael. Somehow, his sincerity made me tear up…. Read More ›
Prince’s Lyrical Language
–Anne Lamott (excerpt from bird by bird). I’ve been in love with language since I was a little girl. I found nothing more pleasurable than getting lost in the characters’ worlds in books -eavesdropping on their conversations. I wrote and illustrated stories,… Read More ›
A Date With Mr. Chin (Almost)
So listen to this. I met a Chinese guy. First time. I’ve never had one show obvious interest in me. He asked me to lunch. I thought about it for a day and said okay. I’ll just tell you guys… Read More ›
My Female Persuasion 