I mentioned the other day that I have a few trips coming up. So, a “male friend wanted” to tag along. I’m using that term loosely because some of the tenets of what I consider friendship are missing.
Anyway, he asks to accompany me. I’m flying, but he wants to turn it into a road trip. He knows my family, so I considered it for a second.
Here’s what he said when I told him I’m going to fly because that’s the cheaper option for me:
Same with car we go half and I pay for gas and tolls and the room no problem to sleep/spend night with u I will pay anything.
My response? I have no intentions on sleeping with or spending the night with you.
And then he tried to run a guilt trip on me.
I guess you’re embarrassed by me. Tell the family I tried to come, but you couldn’t fit me in your busy schedule. I’m sorry, I won’t try to go anywhere with a friend again.
I know I can be short in my responses to people and my attitude is often zero tolerance for BS. But I don’t think I misinterpreted his words. No points for paying for tolls, gas and hotel – to sleep with me.
And on top of that, dude is NOT checking for me on regular basis. He’s waiting until the weather warms up, so we can have lunch. And I’ve known him for decades. Meanwhile, there are men (not even friends) who will brave a snow storm to keep plans to meet up with me.
Also— You know what? I would rather risk being considered a bitch than to give intimate pieces of myself to someone who using the guise of friendship to try and insert themselves into my private space.
The key is to know your worth. And check the foolery. Rant done!!
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Am I tripping? Tell me what you get from this story.