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I'm a writer daylighting as a banker! I started this blog as a single woman in my 30s, and while it has blossomed to include conversations on spirituality and travel, the basic premise is still relationships. I like exploring love relationships (they're fascinating) and the idea that we take ourselves wherever we go (from relationship to relationship, city to city, country to country, etc.) So self assessment is always necessary for growth. And you know if I'm writing about relationships (romantic and otherwise), topics also include dating, lust, the single life, getting ready to be ready (for whatever kind of relationship you envision), etc.

Thanks for joining me on this journey. If we're doing it right, expansion is ongoing. We never stop. This blog evolves, as I do. But -- I can only write from a woman's perspective, for us, and for those who love us.

• Grieving D’Angelo – My 90s Crush, Soulful Icon

  By myfemalepersuasion on October 15, 2025 • ( 4 )

  

  I spent yesterday grieving. Surprised D’Angelo’s passing hit this hard. Not because I didn’t realize his impact on music. He’s my only celebrity crush from the neo soul era. Nothing even matters. He and Lauryn Hill, I learned, laid that… Read More ›

• You May Say That I’m a Dreamer: Rediscovering Childhood Joys

  By myfemalepersuasion on January 17, 2025 • ( 6 )

  

  I guess not ironically, the things I enjoy doing for fun now are the same things I enjoyed as a kid – with one exception – I used to love watching TV. Favorite movies from the 80s – The Color… Read More ›

• The Happily Married – Do They Really Exist?

  By myfemalepersuasion on January 11, 2025 • ( 5 )

  Twelve years passed by really fast! That’s when initially took a poll on happily married couples (how many do you know?). I don’t know where the data stands today, but as for me – I am happily single. If I… Read More ›

• Confession…

  By myfemalepersuasion on November 17, 2024 • ( 1 )

  

  When I was younger – a teen having sex, a young adult, etc. I was attracted to men with manly, muscular thighs and visible abs – low body-fat. Now that I’m older – older, I still don’t want no pot-bellied… Read More ›

• Still Loving Black Men

  By myfemalepersuasion on April 26, 2024 • ( 0 )

  Lately, I’ve been going through my old musings to see what has changed and how many of my perspectives have remained the same. Well – I still love back men. I still get the question occasionally “Have you ever dated… Read More ›

• Embrace the Unexpected: Join Me As I Sabbatical in Africa

  By myfemalepersuasion on September 3, 2023 • ( 1 )

  

  Hello all, A lot has happened since I last checked in, so I hope this message finds you well. Like many of us, my job changed in 2020 – along with so many other things. After devoting twenty three years… Read More ›

• Is a Man Interested if He Doesn’t call?

  By myfemalepersuasion on May 3, 2021 • ( 6 )

  

  I’m gonna answer this question and throw up a poll to see if you agree. No. No, he isn’t interested. I know this and yet I still find myself scratching my head when a man proclaims interest, but has this… Read More ›

• Lay In The Bed You Made – On Children

  By myfemalepersuasion on March 12, 2020 • ( 2 )

  

  I’ve been thinking a lot about parenting lately – not because I have small children, but because I have grown ones. I reflect on decisions I made as a young mother (I had my first child at sixteen) and I… Read More ›