“Can you send me a pic?”
HELL NO! I’m really aggravated by this stupid request I get from guys. All the time. Via text message.
I’m almost out of ways to respond nicely. But what I’m REALLY tempted to ask is “what the fuck do you need a damn picture of me in your phone for? You seen me in person, right? And you anticipate seeing me again right?” Well, ok.
I mean, if I’m REALLY into a guy (or have known him long enough to give him special privileges) I’ll just start posing and sending pics – and still – most likely I won’t send anything too provocative. And especially nothing provocative with my face in it with in it! (And yes, I know sending “nudes” is the norm among certain sets these days.) I’m very photogenic and have no problem taking pics (as long as my hair and makeup are done. Lol.) But for Pete’s sake, leave me the hell alone.
Don’t get me wrong. My line of thinking isn’t that dudes just wanna jerk off to my pics. I think it’s more of an ego boost to have women’s pictures stored in their phones for convenient browsing, (or using their bright imaginations), or bragging to friends. And if the woman is beautiful and or voluptuous, all the better.
But I still think it’s tacky – because in all my single/ dating days, just about EVERY man asks. And goddamnit, it’s annoying. The request usually comes within a week after a first date – never more than that. Way too soon to expect special privileges. I mean, I went out with you, right? Okay, take that as an honor.
For instance, I got this lame message last week from a guy I hung out with once: “If you have a recent pic, may I have one please?”
My response: “I loathe that request, because every guy asks. I prefer to send when I’m motivated to. Talk to you tomorrow.”
I mean, duh.
FELLAS, here’s a tip: If you want to set yourself apart from the pack, one simple thing you can do is refrain from asking for pictures. That “Can you send me a goodnight picture?” request is whack as hell, and it’s unwelcome. Wait until she’s feeling you. She’ll start posing. Trust me.
And while we’re at it, scrap this question too: “Are you on Facebook?” My answer is always “yes.” And my follow-up response is “I use it for close family and friends.” And for the pesky ones “I prefer to get to know men outside of social networking.” So what. They’re only interested in looking at pictures anyway.
Well that’s my rant for the day, but if anyone could shed more light on guys fascination with having a bunch of women’s pictures in their phones, I would appreciate it.
LADIES, do you have this experience as well? Dudes always asking you to send pics? Do think that request is flaky as hell coming from someone you barely know, or am I being harsh?
While we’re at it, feel free to comment on other pet peeves you have about today’s dating game.
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