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I'm a writer daylighting as a banker! I started this blog as a single woman in my 30s, and while it has blossomed to include conversations on spirituality and travel, the basic premise is still relationships. I like exploring love relationships (they're fascinating) and the idea that we take ourselves wherever we go (from relationship to relationship, city to city, country to country, etc.) So self assessment is always necessary for growth. And you know if I'm writing about relationships (romantic and otherwise), topics also include dating, lust, the single life, getting ready to be ready (for whatever kind of relationship you envision), etc.

Thanks for joining me on this journey. If we're doing it right, expansion is ongoing. We never stop. This blog evolves, as I do. But -- I can only write from a woman's perspective, for us, and for those who love us.

• Need You | In the Crates 2012

  By myfemalepersuasion on June 2, 2014 • ( 0 )

  

    The fact is – I need you I’m cursed with a propensity to love hard On my list of best things I never had I need you to answer my fucking phone calls          It’s so simple, but it’s… Read More ›

• Why Can’t I Just Love Black Men?

  By myfemalepersuasion on May 2, 2014 • ( 31 )

  

  “Have you ever dated anybody other than black men?” I’m learning that’s a pretty normal question in the dating world — from black men, because that’s all I’ve ever dated. When I tell them I haven’t, I get strange looks…. Read More ›

• Advice for the Black Woman | Fitness Q&A with Mark Jenkins

  By myfemalepersuasion on April 28, 2014 • ( 25 )

  

  “Diet hard!” Those are the words I hear when I think of celebrity fitness trainer and  motivator Mark Jenkins, whom I recently had the honor of interviewing. Mark’s star clientele includes a roster of celebrities: Mary J. Blige, D’Angelo, P. Diddy, L.L…. Read More ›

• Men and Dating – Pet Peeve

  By myfemalepersuasion on March 31, 2014 • ( 18 )

  

    Dear men, If you ask a woman out, make some effort to come up with a PLAN. Do not put the onus on Her. Minus one thousand points if I ask where we’re meeting/ what we’re doing and the… Read More ›

• How to Handle Honest Men | 5 Tips For Women

  By myfemalepersuasion on March 27, 2014 • ( 27 )

  

  Remember the three men I met last week? They turned out to be HONEST in their intentions, of all things. I’ve been saying honesty is the best game for a while now. (If only more men took heed.) Here’s the… Read More ›

• Hallelujah, It’s Raining Men!

  By myfemalepersuasion on March 20, 2014 • ( 11 )

  

  OMG! I had a ball last night! Went out after work in Chelsea, NYC to celebrate my girlfriend’s birthday. Yayy!! Oh, the gorgeous black men I saw up in there… Owwww. Guy #1 I guess I’d been at the bar/lounge… Read More ›

• Tell Me If I’m Tripping

  By myfemalepersuasion on March 17, 2014 • ( 22 )

  The fuckery. I mentioned the other day that I have a few trips coming up. So, a “male friend wanted” to tag along. I’m using that term loosely because some of the tenets of what I consider friendship are missing…. Read More ›

• The Randomness – My Life 03142014

  By myfemalepersuasion on March 14, 2014 • ( 16 )

  What have I been up to lately? 》》》Working out with a trainer. Getting up at 4:45am at least twice a week to be at the gym by 5:30am is something like torture, but his evenings are booked. (Sigh.) Then we… Read More ›