Ever since I announced that I won’t be blogging much about LB – this new guy I met (in fact, I promised him I wouldn’t), and posted a poem about the relationship, I’ve received a bit of loving backlash from friends.
One wrote me: “It’s a blog who cares…not like you’re using his name and pictures.”
Another said: “I think it’s interesting that in your mind it is okay to “overshare” the bad but you don’t want to “overshare” the good. I think your blog is the journey of your life and this is all part of the journey. EMBRACE IT.”
Another told me: “This new you is interesting! You’ve changed. This is not the blogging person I know who wrote about her ex. Do you think your blog will suffer? Is this stifling you?” (Forgive the paraphrasing.)
First off, I’m honored to have people who engage with my writing and care enough to inquire about the direction of my blog – and my life as a writer. Having friends who recognize my gifts is a gift in and of itself.
The difference between LB and the other men I’ve gone on one-off dates with is that I care about him and I’m invested in the relationship. Put simply, I’m loyal, and I think It’s a reasonable expectation for me to strike a balance between sharing personal stories and respecting his/our need for privacy.
Separate from blogging, I share my most intimate writing about him – with him. That’s part of the bond. In order to build a foundation, certain things must be kept sacred.
He gives me such rich, beautiful language that I replay in my mind all the time. (I know I’m sounding sappy now). And perhaps with his permission, I’ll share some at some point down the line. (There’s levels to this.)
In the meantime – and you can agree or not, this new perspective (being in a relationship versus being single) will allow for more insightful commentary from me. I can combine my single life experience – and serial dating, with my current experience – and my hopes for the future and write from a deeper place.
I have something to say about spirituality and love. About long distance love. About managing expectations for love. I’ve been thinking a lot lately about what it takes to love and be loved. About being emotionally uncomfortable for love’s sake. Why people decide to be exclusive with one another – based on what hopes? How soon do men typically “know” the woman they’re dating is “the One?”
So no worries – I have something for y’all! And LB loves all my gifts and only supports me in them.
Are there any topics you’d like to see on the blog? Are you interested in being a guest blogger? What are your thoughts as far as my new direction? Feel free to chime in!