It always strikes me as odd when I talk to women friends who assume all men like a bare vagina. At the mention that some men either prefer hair down there or don’t care one way or the other, ladies respond “REALLY?” Uhh, yes. Different strokes for different folks.
Wasn’t it the norm to have a bush back in the days? Like, back in the 70s, 80s, and 90s? We know what people think are downsides – odor, hair in the teeth during cunnilingus (what side of the bed did I wake up on?), high costs, etc. And there are upsides. I guess one can appreciate the full beauty of the vulva sans hair? It feels less scratchy? My GYN doctor said waxing is somewhat healthy because it’s like exfoliating the skin – but he can’t understand why women (upwards of 80% of his patients) torture themselves like that. I almost added for the sake of pleasing men, but I don’t know that to be entirely true.
Bottom line, ladies. You might like shaving. Or waxing, or whatever, but don’t frown upon women who don’t. (And I know you don’t really care; I’m exaggerating because of the shocked responses I’ve gotten at the mention of different preferences.) My guess is that most men will enjoy it – bare, or with hair.
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Do you agree or no? Have you had this conversation? If you’re reading this and you engage women as sexual partners, what do you think? Are bare vaginas more aesthetically pleasing? Have you pressured a woman to shave? Or to keep a natural bush?
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My friends and I were actually having this exact conversation a few days ago. They all prefer their girls to be bare down there while I enjoy a little hair. Don’t grow an afro but some neat shrubbery looks great in my view. I’ve gone out with a few women and I think they all shaved or had a neat shrub, I think it’s the cultural ‘norm’ nowadays. I couldn’t care less. There’s more important things going on for me to care about hair at that moment.
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good on you! I’m sure your partner appreciates the lack of pressure from you on that front.
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A nice trim is sufficient, for me at least. Brazilian isn’t for me. That said, would I enjoy my wife any less depending on her pubic hair, or lack thereof? Nope. Not THAT big a deal either way to me.
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Right in line with my thinking and experience. Most men don’t make a big deal, but some have strong preferences. It can feel a bit like pressure, although ultimately pleasing a mate is pleasurable. lol
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Yeah, that’s something that’s not a big concern, and certainly compromisable. I’ve never asked my wife, or any other girlfriends before her, to change in any way. In this case, I’m there for the cake, not the icing. That said, if my wife wanted me to go bare? I would. It’s a “Whatever.” for me. That said, a little manscaping is part of my routine. π
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haha! sounds like it’s working for you two. all that matters!
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Yep. π
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Good question! I prefer to shave because I feel more refreshed. It’s just like shaving your arm pit hair. I feel more clean and sexy. Sometimes I may leave a nice landscape design at the top. During intercourse a man likes to look at what he’s working with and he can’t see it with a bush.π Just my thoughts I guess..lol
Sherry
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hmm. I don’t disagree at all. As painful as waxing it, I do like the smoother, sexier feeling afterwards! I can manage sometimes. lol. As far as what turns men on, for some it’s hair and for some it’s bare. Some like a combination (the landing strip look, or a trim). thanks for chiming in.
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That’s how I feel about it. From a mans point of view , I can’t answer that.
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I hear you. It’s about how YOU feel – as it should be.
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I just love your blogs!!!β€οΈβ€οΈβ€οΈ
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thank you!
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I prefer bare because it just feels sexier to me and that’s ultimately what matters the most. However, the times that I’ve been a little lax or didn’t feel like torturing myself, I received no complaints about a little hair.
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I think that’s a great, pressure free balance.
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Clean shaven or a little well trimmed hair is fine for me,
As long as she took the time to pretty things up, I’m good!!
I mean, it’s not like I’m gonna say, huh? You’re not well trimmed
I’m outta here.
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haha. I try to make the same point about the assumption that complete bareness is a general expectation from men.
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I shave mine, keeping it at a low trim. It has become my preference. I want to try waxing one day, but I can barely take waxing my eyebrows! My husband says he doesn’t really care, but he likes a low trim. I didn’t start cutting / shaving down there until I got married. I do remember one guy I dated, prior to my husband, acting surprised I had a bush down there. I just didn’t think much of it back then.
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waxing is tough to handle, although they say the more you do it, the less it hurts. seems like a consensus that most men are somewhat flexible in this regard!
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I prefer some amount of hair down there.
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It seems a lot of men enjoy it bare but there are still a lot of guys that don’t care either way. First and foremost ladies, you should be doing what YOU like best.
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Agreed. I personally don’t feel too strongly one way or the other so I’m willing to appease. I’m flexible.
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Interesting topic. I keep it clean and neat but don’t go bare. I’ve never gone bare and I feel uncomfortable with men who prefer it because I was sexually abused as a child and wonder do they want a little girl. I know it’s crazy and trust it’s one of the many issues I’m working on in therapy but I don’t go all the way bare. I told this to Mr. C when we started dating because he preferred it bare, but he said he respected my reason and didn’t have a problem with hair. Whatever you want to do is personal decision for your vagina and not to please a man.
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wow. you’re the third person who mentioned childlike qualities to that end. I’m indifferent in this regard so I’m willing to sway one way or the other depending on a partner’s preference. Waxing is painful though; I can’t front.
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LOL. I wonder if those people also suffered child abuse or were with women who did. Heck, it hurts to wax my eyebrows so I can only imagine hot wax. I’ve used nair instead of wax a couple of times.
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girl, the technicians always say it gets less painful over time. threading my eyebrows is easier now, but Brazilian wax?! Just no.
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And thank you for chiming in with such personal insight.
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Tikeetha, totally agreeβ‘
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I would despise a man if he insisted on it, so it’s a good bastard test! π
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apparently, you are not alone! interesting discussion. thanks for chiming in.
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Great post!
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thank you!
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I have this conversation every day with men. I’d say most aren’t that bothered. Obviously those who watch to much porn tjink women should be bald! But mainly guys prefer hair
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based on the responses here, I would say you’re right! but a lot of women do assume men prefer it bare for some reason. thanks for chiming in.
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Welcome
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I like bare or tidy. π
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hmmmmm. great compromise. π
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One must be pragmatic in such situations. Unless a wild garden is encountered, then pragmatism is out, and a razor is inπ
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lollllll
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I see that your out there reading! How have you been?
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hey! I meant to comment too but got distracted. I want to come back to my blog! I’ve been traveling. Just got back from Portugal last week. How are you?!
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I’ve been very well, thank you! BTW, just to disprove the notion that men are shortminded, I recall that you were supposed to follow up with more takes from your photoshoot. (you know I’ll never let you live this one down). So, let’s have it. π
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haha. i did a photo shoot in Lisbon. outdoors!
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Do I need to resort to begging to see it? π
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I’ll try to get around to posting soon!
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Good, because I will not soon forget. π
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Still waiting ππ
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For me itβs all good ad long as personal hygiene is observed.. but an Afro down there is a no no
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dang… no afros!
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