What’s been going on lately?
I feel like I’m chugging along, having revelation after revelation about myself and like sharing it all would sound absolutely crazy. It would.
You know how you go through all this growth and then look back a year or two, or five, or even ten years later and you’re able to summarize how you’ve changed and outline who and what the catalysts were?
Well yea, the beauty is that it doesn’t take me years anymore, although just a day can seem like an eternity. Right?
Ever been in a new relationship where you talked and talked to that person like all the time, never missing a day for months on end? And then the first time you didn’t hear from them, you fell off your rocker? No? Only me? I’ve been there.
I’m almost getting sidetracked about what I wanted to say – oh, yeah – I was explaining how a day can feel like an eternity. Same goes for if you’ve ever had a missing child. Five minutes could feel like forever.
Anyway, when you’re in a sea of change, or major shifts in consciousness, it can make you feel nutty – like you’re on a roller coaster ride. Like you’re having wobbles in your vibration/ energy.
And I’m distracted again.
Overall, I’ve noticed some practiced ways of thinking and being that hadn’t been conducive to building thriving relationships. Old beliefs will show up from time to time, naturally (the biggest one a lot of us learn early on is that we are somehow unworthy). I wrestle them to the ground and keep it moving!
Really though, I’m thinking a lot about relationship journeys, and I have a few interviews lined up with women who’ve been married 12 years or longer. I’ll post them here. I’m interested in growth catalysts, and the fine glue that holds their spirits and marriages together.
As far as the relationship journey that I’m on, I’m nurturing my relationship with Self more so than anything, and that has led to a deeper appreciation and a more unconditional love for this gorgeous man (LB). And the more I support him in all he needs to do, the more I receive the gift of expansion (within myself). The more I’m consciously raising my own vibration, the more I love… you get it. 🙂
I warned you that I’d sound like I’m rambling right?! Forgive me?
I hope you are well. Thanks for reading!
Categories: Dating Stories, Personal Stories, Random, Random Thoughts
I agree in theory, but I haven’t been able to get there myself. There’s so much emotional noise presently, and not all mine, that it makes it difficult to do anything other than maintain the status quo.
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I don’t think we ever really get “there.” it’s a never ending effort. I’ve seen you post about things you love to do, for yourself. Those may be the things to help you feel grounded amidst the noise.
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The problem is, that your significant other may not think that those things are valued. Therein lies the rub.
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The more you do those things, the better able you are to show up and relate. Because your happiness trumps hers. We are all selfish and want to be the center, but the gifts you get from being supportive are so much juicier. I had a lesson in this just this week!
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I do agree with it, but I think that I’m going to really have to push matters to get there.
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It will work! 🙂
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Loved this post! I’ve been working on finding myself and keeping a positive mindset. It has been working relatively well for me! We will all get “there” one day! here is my blog if you would like to check it out:) https://americanbloggerxoxo.wordpress.com/ I just started blogging and I would love to hear your input!
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Thank you!
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I used to think that loving myself too much would make me selfish. But now that I’m 42 I realize the best thing I can do for myself and others is to love me first. This revelation has opened my eyes in completely different way. I see the world clearer and I approve the small things even more. I’m more grateful and also more loving. Can’t wait to read these interviews. Enjoy the roller coaster ride 😉
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Awww so glad you chimed in and happy you made that connection. The little things help so much – like a hot bath with candles, 30 minutes of meditation, a training session in the gym, dancing around the house… lol. Bigger things like travel are AH-MAZING as well. Best wishes!
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I love this. Growth catalysts. Can’t wait to read and welcome back.
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Thank you! Yes, when you can recognize that all contrast is a catalyst for growth – while you’re in the midst of the struggle or discomfort, the unfolding is that much more appreciated and even beautiful.
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