“Have you ever dated anybody other than black men?”
I’m learning that’s a pretty normal question in the dating world — from black men, because that’s all I’ve ever dated.
When I tell them I haven’t, I get strange looks. And then “Why not?”
Because I just — like black men. I like their energy. It’s what I know. 99% of the time, when I see a man I find attractive, he’s black. Plus other men don’t approach me.
Some men ask “Are they intimidated by you?”
I don’t know. I know I get stares from men of other races – sometimes. How would I know they’re intimidated if they never say as much?
The bigger question is — Why can’t I just love black men? I don’t feel like I’m missing anything, although several black men have suggested that I just try it. “But don’t go to the other side and stay there.”
I will never ‘seek out’ men of other races to date and have sex with – just for the sake of seeing what I’m missing. That idea is unappealing to me – although I’m “open” to going out with a non-black man if he meets my standards for a man I’d date.
From my perspective (and I’m aware of my partiality), there’s nothing like chocolate skin. I just think it’s beautiful. Call me biased — but Why can’t I just love black men?
(Just to preference my questions – of course it’s okay to love who you love regardless of whatever.) Have you ever been pressured to try interracial dating? Either way – whether you have or have not dated someone other than your own ethnicity, what are the benefits? If you never have, do you feel you are missing out on anything? Why or why not?