Some people think my “rule” of not kissing on a first date is a bit far-fetched, but hey, that’s my norm. I’m told that most women do much more than that on first dates, so no man is going to wait for a kiss – especially when he has options. I say, if I just meet a man, it’s safe to assume at the outset that he DOES have options – unless he’s outright unappealing. I would confirm that eventually, but that’s not a main concern when I first meet a man.
As far as kissing strangers, that doesn’t sit well with me. Call me a prude. I don’t care. And I’m especially not inclined to go someplace and get naked with him.
If two adults are having consensual sex, on a first, third, or tenth date — it’s all good, but I think everyone should do what suits their comfort level.
My Female Persuasion 
Never kiss on the first date. I have to know a lil bit about you first. I agree that on the first date you are still a stranger
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Exactly. Give intuition a chance to kick in. Get to know who you’re kissing. Are they really single? Do they have good hygiene? Are they telling lies? Thanks for chiming in.
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I do believe everyone should have certain things they will or will not do. I just don’t think kissing is such a big deal. If it was a good date you wouldn’t kiss them? Usually that’s how a guy will judge the date. Just hearing a woman say she had fun doesn’t really mean anything. The action of a kiss would mean more.
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Really? This is the first I’m hearing this. I wanna do a poll now! I do know that men want to feel appreciated for their efforts and like their date had a great time. I totally get that, but isn’t the pleasure in making the woman happy? How else do guys judge how well the date went? Aside from kissing? It’s not a big deal for you because it’s within your comfort zone – your norm. And maybe men and women feel differently about this in general. I don’t know.
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How would you now she was happy when you tried to kiss her and she tuned you down? You would feel like the date didn’t go so well if she won’t even give you a kiss. I’m not even saying you have to make out.
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I tell them I had a great time. And in my experience, most men just go in for a hug (no kiss). So there’s no cut and dry. Depends on the ppl. Dating requires flexibility. I might have that look – like you bednot. Lol. Also, if you accept a second date, its safe to say you had a nice time.
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I guess so…See when you wait for the end of the date to go for the kiss it makes it a little awkward. I go for a kiss when the date is still going on. Like when we’re going to the second place. I will kiss her on the walk over.
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Reema, you are so calculated! That’s a thought. Looking at it from your perspective, it is less awkward at that stage of the date.
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I shared the same rule ….until recently! Smh at myself. The chemistry was magnetic with him and after about a month b/w our initial meeting and first date, I let my guard down. So far….no regrets.
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Awwwww shooot! Wow. That’s like Kenny commented, it’s all about the build-up to the date. Sometimes there’s tons of foreplay and or anticipation. Sparks get to flying. Hey, no regrets! That’s what’s up.
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